double standards

so a couple days ago i was sitting on my bed listening to music and writing when my roommate hailey came home with a bunch of bags full of clothes and other items that she went shopping for (which technically she is not allowed to do but shes kinda addicted... ;)) so anyway she had bought this dress and she went into the bathroom and tried it on and came back out and said something to the effect of "whoo this is a wee bit short! just a little bit of wind and oop you can see my panties!! definitely not appropriate for church, but its good for school!" oh ya sounds.... wait a min... so you cant wear it to church because its too short but you can wear it to school...? isnt that kinda a double standard?

well as you can tell i was slightly confused about this because personally i do not think that modesty is a relative thing. there are certain guidelines that have been set and are very clear and they do not depend on situations they are constant and unchanging. so i sat there for a min while she went back into the bathroom to change into another outfit that she had bought and when she came back out i asked her what the difference was between being church appropriate and school appropriate and why she thinks that there is a difference. well she got really confused and told me that she wasnt really sure but it was just something that her mom had always said growing up. i accepted her answer but continued to think about it as she went out to show my other roommates her new outfit. then she came back inside and told me that what i had said had really concerned her and gave her something to think about that she had never thought about before.

she then told me that she had called her mom and asked her what the difference is and this is what her mom said. she told her that the dress would be school appropriate because the leggings with a long skirt is something that is in style right now and that would be modest but if you were to wear that to church it would be like wearing pants which is not acceptable. i told her that that made sense to me but then the only concern that i have with that is the other day when she was getting ready to go on a date she asked me if some black jeans that she has looked too much like leggings rather than jeans because she wasnt ok with that look. to that she kinda stuttered and told me that she thought i had a point and said thanks for bringing that to her attention and that she was going to take the dress back.

now the point of this conversation was not to tell her how i thought she was a sinner which wasnt what i was doing but only because i really was genuinely curious about what her reasoning for having a double standard was. and the reason for this post is not me saying how awesome i am because i am not i am simply curious about this and thought i would share my findings with you.

so now i ask you... do you have a double standard when it comes to modesty? do you have clothing items that are 'appropriate for school but not for church'? if you do what is your justification for that? do you really think that the boys/girls that you see at school, the same ones you see at church, need to see any more 'skin' just because you are in a different setting? i encourage you to take a look in your own closet and ask yourself if there is anything that you have that you would not be comfortable wearing in one setting but have somehow justified wearing it in another setting, and if there is, do something to change that and make sure that you are living your life in a way that does not have double standards and does not leave any room for anyone to question what you believe in and the way that you view yourself. :D

"What’s sexy about saying, ‘I’m here with my boobs out and a short skirt, have a look at everything I’ve got?’ My idea of sexy is that less is more. The less you reveal the more people can wonder.” -Emma Watson