compliments...
awkward. self-centered. uncomfortable. vain. secretly happy. important. loved. pretty... i think that all of us love to be complimented, because it lets us know we are loved. we all need to feel important but i think sometimes we (especially girls) have a really hard time knowing how to accept compliments without feeling awkward, self-centered, uncomfortable, or vain. but at the same time we dont know how to brush them off without sounding like we are fishing for more... so what do we do? do we go with the first and be thought of as cocky or do we go with the second and be thought of as someone with low self esteem? oh but then there is a third option it goes like this... "thanks... *awkward silence* sooo..." oh i know who wouldnt want to pass up the opportunity for an awkward silence where the girl is feeling incredibly self conscious and the guy is wondering if she really believes him, right? ya not so much... you see i have made the decision to become better at accepting the compliments that people give me and only after deciding to do so realized that i have no idea how to...
so i ask you, ladies, what do you think the best way to accept a compliment is? do you brush it off? do you say thanks awkwardly and then quickly change the subject? do you say 'oh i know', flash a cute smile, and then wait for him to say something? do you roll your eyes at him and say thanks but dont believe a word he says?
and guys, how would you like us to accept your compliment? do you think were self centered if we accept it without any protest? do you feel like your opinion about us doesnt matter when we brush it off? do you just hope that somewhere inside we are taking what you said to heart? or do you say stuff that you dont really mean but you think itll make us happy and so brushing it off is the right thing to do?
"I don't make you feel special, I just remind you that you ARE special." -David F. Sims
Oh my goodness, I know just what you mean. I'm trying to get better at accepting them from other people and by now I can usually say 'Thank you' with a sincere smile, but I also tend to look down and throw in an 'um' or two just because I'm so unused to being complimented.
ReplyDeleteexactly!! ya thats what im trying to do, or you could always use the line, "well thanks youre a rather handsome lad yourself..." :D super funny to see how they react, well if theyre a boy of course! and i miss your freaking guts thats all :D
ReplyDeleteHaha, I'll keep that in mind should a boy ever compliment me :D And I miss you too!! I'm really hoping I can come out for Lila's blessing or spring break- thinking I might not be back until I'm actually going to school out there is just awful :[
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